Our Day and God's Timeline

As I write this, I am sitting in the security office of our apartments because our internet is down in our room. There are guns all around me, which is oddly making me feel both secure and uneasy. Anyway, we have had a very frustrating/uneventful day today.

We have heard NOTHING all day. We literally sat in our apartment by the phone waiting...longing for it to ring with good news...or any news to be honest. Our social worker could not get a hold of our lawyer to get the ruling that we needed in paper form so that we could continue the process...and she also couldn't get a hold of the other lawyer that is working on our passports. They decided not to answer or return any messages today. I can't tell you how discouraging this was. If you remember being in 'love' when you were in middle school/high school, and waiting all night to receive that one phone call from that special person and them never calling...that is a fraction of what we felt today...minus the 'being in love' part. So again, we wait. We will miss Thanksgiving. My mom and dad are driving to AR to be with Bethany's mom and our kids for Thanksgiving tomorrow. My brother, from Tyler, TX, is also driving up to spend the day with them. They are going to our good friends, the McKean's, for Thanksgiving. While we long to be there with them, we are so thankful that our family will be surrounded with so much love during this holiday. Our hearts will be there with them.

I am so thankful for all of the encouraging messages on Facebook from many of you today! They have lifted our spirits much! My words can't describe enough how much YOUR words mean during this journey.

On a different note, I've been doing some investigative research of Jaydn's background and have put together a timeline of events that leading up to the collision between our family and our precious new daughter, Jaydn Priscilla. It is quite fascinating...so hold on:


Here is what I know:

God spoke to Bethany when she was 16 (15 years ago) and planted in her a calling to adopt, whether she knew it then or not.

God then led her, with her kicking and screaming the whole way I might add, to Nashville, where we meet, date and eventually get married.

God allows both of us to travel to Uganda, Africa in 2006 where, in His perfect timing, opens MY heart to the calling of adoption.

While we were there, God confirmed in our hearts that Uganda is the country we were suppose to adopt from.

At that time, Uganda was closed to adoption, so because we were so 'freshly' called, we hastily start contemplating proceeding with the adoption journey through Ethiopia, instead of Uganda.

God, because He had said, "UGANDA", halts the Ethiopia journey by allowing us to get pregnant with our daughter, Jovie. The rule stated that the youngest child in the family had to be at least 18 months old before you could adopt.

Six months after Jovie was born, Jaydn Priscilla was born on the other side of the world.

This is where God got creative: On February 19th, 2009, Jaydn Priscilla's mother made the decision that the next day would be the last day that she would ever see her daughter again. On that same evening (still the 19th), God decided to officially swing open the doors to Uganda and allow international adoptions. He had a plan the whole time...that even through the tragedy of a mother abandoning her child, His plan would be made perfect.

Fittingly, Jaydn Priscilla is placed in an orphange called An Open Door on February 21st, 2009. This orphanage was one of the only orphanges (out of MANY in UGANDA) that was working with HOLT International...the only adoption agency that the Ugandan government allows in their country.

In June, 2009, a friend of ours let us know about the 'pilot program' from HOLT. Jovie was 15 months old. We knew she would be 18 months before any adoption would be completed. It was then that we started our Journey to Jaydn.

17 months later, we are here in Africa with our daughter, Jaydn, that was meant to be ours since she was formed in her mother's womb.

God is good, all the time.
All the time, God is good.

So while we wait...sometimes frustrated, tired or bored, we still have hope. Because the hope we have comes not from this world.


Erica said...

Covering you all in prayer!! Incredible to see the hand of God over every little detail. Trusting His perfect timing in completing this adoption.

Anonymous said...

Gives a whole new perspective to the idea that God is the father of the fatherless. Amazing story, amazing family, amazing GOD. We miss you guys and think about you often throughout the day. Blake

Anonymous said...

P.S. The only thing i am going to speak to God about some day is the idea that you will be bringing her back to Arkansas instead of Naples. I so wish i could snuggle Jadyn up! Other than that, good story!!!!! Blake

Anonymous said...

P.S. The only thing i am going to speak to God about some day is the idea that you will be bringing her back to Arkansas instead of Naples. I so wish i could snuggle Jadyn up! Other than that, good story!!!!! Blake

Jennifer Garrison said...

Amen! What a journey. He's got the whole world in His hands!

Sunshine said...

Thanks so much for that great "big picture" look at the whole journey! I really needed to be reminded of it not only for things in my own life, but because I'm getting frustrated FOR you, so I can't imagine how it must feel to you! I will continue to pray (and pray and pray) and anxiously await each new FB post and blog update, because like every great story, I can't wait to get to the next page =)
Love to you all, E

Anonymous said...

Love you guys, Nathan!!! Love you so much! You're in my thoughts and prayers and I'm carrying you around with me while you're stuck there. Hang on, I'm sure there is much happening that you cannot see.
Ellen Goebel

Whittaker Woman said...

Yay! Love it! So excited to meet her! H

Jewie said...

God is amazing! You will look back on this time in Uganda (sometime in the future) with another view of his perfect timing. I know it's frustrating now wanting to be home but there is a reason for the wait. Patience is never a lesson I truly conquer - it's hard, but worth it.
Happy Thanksgiving to you!

Anonymous said...

November 24th, "Streams in the Desert"

I am sorry to send this late but could not get it done on the 24th for you and I know how much you needed this encouragement. Thankful may others were bale to encourage and comfort you then. So on this most blessed Thanksgiving Day I offer this as my "gift" to you both.

"Be Still, and know that I am God" Psalm 46:10

Is there any note in all the music of the world as the grand pause? Is there any word in Psalms more eloquent than "selah," meaning pause. Is there anything more thrilling and awe-inspiring than the calm before the crashing of the storm, or the strange wuiet that seems to fall upon nature before some supernatural phenomenon or disastrous upheaval? And is there anything that can touch our hearts like the POWER OF STILLNESS??

For the hearts that will cease focusing on themselves, there is "the peace of God. which transcends all understanding." Phil. 4:7; "quietness and trust" Isa. 30:15, which is the source of all strength; a "great peace" that will never "make them stumble" Psalm 119:165; and a deep rest, which the world can never give nor take away. Deep within the center of the soul is a chamber of peace where God lives and where, if we will enter it and quiet all the other sounds, we can hear His "gentle whisper" 1 Kings 19:12

Even in the fastest wheel that is turning, if you look at the center, where the axle is found, there is no movement at all. And even in the busiest life, there is a place where we may dwell alone with God in eternal stillness.

There is only one way to know God: "Be still, and know." "The LORD is in His holy temple; let all the earth be silent before Him" Hab. 2:20

All-loving Father, sometimes we have walked under starless skies that dripped darkness like drenching rain. We despaired from the stillness and answerless day but we know that Your voice will speak "Move" and in your perfect timing all will move as a sweet anthem of praise to You. (last sentence mine)

Thankful for your lives so sweetly and openly lived.

May God grant you peace and patience as you are in His waiting room. Remember, Janet's teaching "waiting time is never wasted time." This will be the last time for a long time if ever that you will have the opportunity to bond with your precious Jaydn. She needed this time with you, just the three of you. Full on love like she has never known. You are being Jesus to this sweet child and will for the rest of her life. Praying she always knows this appreciates your sacrifice.

Much love to you all,

Barb Rowe